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Grace Atwood's avatar

This was such a good read. Thank you for sharing.

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

Thank you for taking the time, Grace!

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Jessica Wright's avatar

I loved this. Thank you. I had far fewer followers than you (around 8k at my peak) but I treated social media like a job and felt the same way toward the end. Switching my account from business to personal last year was so freeing.

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

It's so good to hear you can relate! I know it's sustainable for a lot of people, but I don't think I'm one of them.

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Alicia Tenise's avatar

I loved this read. And honestly it isn’t just you — I’m also seeing a significant slowdown after the frenzy of 2020-2022. Unfortunately, it seems that hiring Black influencers was a trend that has since passed.

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

It's such a bummer. Feeling relieved that others can relate

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Veronica's avatar

Thank you for sharing, Ayana. It’s hard to have a healthy relationship with social media as a regular person. I love the dose of reality and your perspective!

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

Thank you, Veronica!

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Olivia Muenter's avatar

Such a good essay.

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

Learned essay writing from the best (you!)

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Lindsay Falk's avatar

I really always wish the best for you and your family. I found you after that video but stayed for you, your relationship with your darling parents and of course Monday tweets 😂 Hopefully you have found the place you're meant to be.

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Whitney Cornell's avatar

"Writing made me a lot less money, but it felt right." So much truth, so much authenticity in this! If you're writing from the heart, your work (your art!) will find it's audience.

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Jess's avatar

I appreciate your honesty and candor! And I love that you feel freer now and less frenzied.

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Jess's avatar

unfortunately your "hot take" seems to be true... i've seen so many bipoc brands closing recently which is so so sad. but I'm glad you have found a good balance/relationship with social media! wishing the best for you and your family!

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Krystal 👩🏻‍💻's avatar

After almost ten years of full-time influencing off and on, it's over for me. I just saved this post to read it again, and it feels so relatable but for different reasons. I wanted to just thank you for this post! I worked for two different influencer agencies as well, and you're right, it's still thriving right now. I'm however older, don't have young children, didn't really do well on TikTok. I just cannot. I'm ready to bow out. <3

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Ayana Gabrielle Lage's avatar

I get it — it gets so exhausting! Thank you for taking the time to read and share your perspective.

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Elizabeth Holmes's avatar

Thank you for this, Ayana. Your candor is inspiring and a needed, frank look at what this industry entails.

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Chelsea Culbertson's avatar

The jump (off a cliff) from 2020 income as an influencer to 2025 income has been a hard pill to swallow on my end. It’s been so hard to figure out how to navigate. But a girl is tired.

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Julia's avatar

I would be curious to know how many followers you’ve lost are from people deactivating their accts vs people actively unfollowing specific creators. I deactivated my account after the inauguration and I mostly don’t miss it (I miss your tweet round up!).

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