Agreed, Ayana. My birthday was on Friday, and after two cocktails, I told my husband that I love our life. I love everything as it is—our routines, our hangouts, occasionally spending a meal out with good people, our kids and getting to be a part of their journeys and growth, our settled-in new home after an end-of-the-year move, etc. I'm satisfied with the life we've built for ourselves.
"Mundane" equals comfort to me. Maybe that's me being neurodivergent and finally accepting myself as I am, and learning to be okay with rarely if ever being able to "keep up" with others—it's nice to not even think like that anymore! But, finally, I feel fulfilled for the first time in my life. If I get to do more and achieve more, great! But I'm happy with how things are with us, our family, our friends, and with myself. This, I didn't realize until getting here, is exactly where I've always wanted to be in life. "More" doesn't equal better, and mundane can be beautiful and satisfying.
I think it’s easy to feel like the ‘mundane’ day to day isn’t enough when we compare with the exciting highlights we see of other people’s lives. Maybe setting a goal or an intention to create little moments of joy more often is a way to remind yourself that a ‘mundane’ day to day can be fun and joy-filled too? Something as simple as taking an extra 10 mins to make yourself something special for lunch, or making cocktails together like you said. Those things won’t be every single day, but I think there’s a lot to be said for scattering little moments of joy into the everyday, instead of counting down to the big things every few months like concerts and holidays.
Agreed, Ayana. My birthday was on Friday, and after two cocktails, I told my husband that I love our life. I love everything as it is—our routines, our hangouts, occasionally spending a meal out with good people, our kids and getting to be a part of their journeys and growth, our settled-in new home after an end-of-the-year move, etc. I'm satisfied with the life we've built for ourselves.
"Mundane" equals comfort to me. Maybe that's me being neurodivergent and finally accepting myself as I am, and learning to be okay with rarely if ever being able to "keep up" with others—it's nice to not even think like that anymore! But, finally, I feel fulfilled for the first time in my life. If I get to do more and achieve more, great! But I'm happy with how things are with us, our family, our friends, and with myself. This, I didn't realize until getting here, is exactly where I've always wanted to be in life. "More" doesn't equal better, and mundane can be beautiful and satisfying.
Thanks for sharing, Ayana!
I think it’s easy to feel like the ‘mundane’ day to day isn’t enough when we compare with the exciting highlights we see of other people’s lives. Maybe setting a goal or an intention to create little moments of joy more often is a way to remind yourself that a ‘mundane’ day to day can be fun and joy-filled too? Something as simple as taking an extra 10 mins to make yourself something special for lunch, or making cocktails together like you said. Those things won’t be every single day, but I think there’s a lot to be said for scattering little moments of joy into the everyday, instead of counting down to the big things every few months like concerts and holidays.